In my Dark Tantra sessions, I use spanking as a means of catharsis, healing, and stress relief. Last week a client and I connected through a dark session that involved so much more thank spanking. Often during sessions, clients don’t know where to put their hands; their minds won’t completely quiet down as they go back to their usual sexual modus operandi, and start thinking of ways to please me instead of receiving the healing.
Even though the session started very similar to a regular tantric massage, after a few minutes of breathing and relaxing touch his hands started moving around, looking for my legs. Limb by limb, I bound his hands and legs to my table with satin sashes. I continued the massage, flogging, tickling and scratching between effleurage and lomi.
Sessions like these have nothing to do with showing the receiver who’s in charge, correcting an action, or as a start to something sexual. These sparks of sensory play is a way to become more centered and in touch with with your body, and to enjoy so-called darker desires without shame. Sometimes, enjoying your darkest desires allows you to authentically live with yourself.
You don’t have to book a session to enjoy the fun and excitement a few spanks can bring. If you would like to practice with a partner, all you need to do is have the right tools. Here is a list of my favorite tools used in my practice and hopefully someday you can use in your bedroom!
Candles (for wax play)