Sorry I am late, I was masturbating. I know it's May 20th, but this is the perfect month for that excuse, so I am using it!
Have you been masturbating? NO?!?! Why the hell not! This is a celebration. It feels good and it DOES good. That is right, masturbation has been proven to be BENEFICIAL for women and men. Since I have a vulva to celebrate this month, I will talk about women's masturbation today, but hey there are still 11 days left in the month. I might get to penises too, if I am lucky and practice excellent time management. Masturbation will make you feel better about yourself and make your lover excited to fuck.
Masturbating is Good for You
While touching yourself provides amazing sensory benefits and other pleasures, it's actually better for you. Masturbation can help those suffering from insomnia naturally. Tension release is a great sleep inducer, and that is what an orgasm is. Those good feelings of bliss are brought on by our good friend dopamine, the “feel-good” hormone and when you are done cumming, the relaxing hormone oxytocin is released, which helps you sleep. Also, these hormones are also helpful in improving your mood and relieving depressed feelings. Oh, and all of those pulses you are feeling? Hello pelvic floor! The pelvic floor twerks for you while you orgasm, strengthening naturally without the need of yoni eggs or kegels. Besides, touching yourself helps to improve the way you view yourself and allows you to connect with your body.
One question I get often is, "When is the best time to masturbate?" Anytime is a GOOD time to masturbate, but the BEST time is when you have the freedom to honor yourself without other distractions. I like to set up a date night with myself sometimes that includes a sexy playlist, good wine, candles and my favorite vibrator. I take a couple of hours of solitude, put my phone in 'do not disturb' mode and enjoy myself.
For women, there are 3 well known ways to masturbate: grinding, clitoral stimulation and fingering/vaginal penetration. Grinding was the first way I learned to pleasure myself. I could do it when I was young and still living in my mother's home, without all the guilt that came with touching myself. I would lie in bed, naked from the waist down, and grind on my sheets, arousing myself so that the tip of my clit would fill up and graze lightly against the bed until I climaxed. It's a great intro to masturbation!
Clitoral stimulation can be very intense, depending on the woman, the time of the month, and countless other varying factors. Touching your (well lubed) clitoris gently, rubbing it in a circular motion or using a motorized clit massager are all my top 3 ways to get a quick nut. Sometimes, we don't have time for all the loving woo we want to give ourselves, but sexual release is still desirable. On those days, if I am turned on for it, I make a b-line for the clitoris.
Then, there's penetration. Ahhh, to be penetrated by your own loving hands provides a personal freedom you might not know exists. It allows you to feel the inside of your vagina, palpating your cervix and g-spot, and get a sense of your natural wetness. You can finally feel the pulsing and contractions and repeatedly realize how strong and powerful your pussy actually is! Dildos, wands, g-spot stimulators, and other sex toys can be brought to this private party if you desire, but always know partnered with a good lubricant, your hand is a-plenty!
I could talk for hours about other types of masturbation, including anal play, self-flogging, masturdation (meditational masturbation) and breath orgasms (touchless masturbation), but you will just have to join one of my classes for that. For information on my upcoming classes visit www.fearlessgift.org/events and I look forward to having you at my studio soon!