Handjobs, Sex & Lies

On my recent podcast, I went in on handjobs. I don't know what it is about 2018, but it is clearly the "year of the handjob." I don't know, it's like all of a sudden, men woke up everywhere and decided they want a rub and tug.

​The issue there is simple:  I do not offer a "rub and tug," at least not in the traditional sense.

What does that mean? Well, for those of you who haven't been privy to a handjob, it looks like this: You go into a massage establishment, get a (usually) mediocre, quick massage, and at the end your genitals are stroked until you cum, and the "Happy Ending" takes place. All of this is usually handled at the speed of Dominoes pizza, and you are in and out in 30 minutes or less. Anyone who has been on my table will let you know that this is NOT what happens here, but the requests have increased so much since the start of the year. 

Personally, I find handjobs to be boring. Don't get me wrong, I love massaging genitalia, I love giving pleasure, but a handjob is so... well, mechanical. It is a job for a sex bot, not a Sexual Goddess like myself. I am too often forced to hide my annoyance at the request.

My sessions, unlike handjob sessions, are not goal oriented. There is never any pressure to orgasm in my sexual practice. This includes my massage, my goddess sessions, and even in my own private sexual life. It is a wonderful experience, especially for women, who in an attempt to spare the feelings of their lovers, have been faking orgasms since orgasms have been recorded (another trend I hope is fully abandoned and left in 2017.)

Can we stop lying to our lovers about our pleasure and our needs (or about anything?) 

If you lie to someone because you don't want to hurt their feelings, you've committed two injustices. First, you have sacrificed your own integrity to spare the other persons feelings, which you are not responsible for. Second, you have robbed them of autonomy over their own feelings. 

Blessings <3

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