In my Dark Tantra sessions, I use spanking as a means of catharsis, healing, and stress relief. Last week a client and I connected through a dark session that involved so much more thank spanking. Often during sessions, clients don’t know where to put their hands; their minds won’t completely quiet down as they go back to their usual sexual modus operandi, and start thinking of ways to please me instead of receiving the healing.
Even though the session started very similar to a regular tantric massage, after a few minutes of breathing and relaxing touch his hands started moving around, looking for my legs. Limb by limb, I bound his hands and legs to my table with satin sashes. I continued the massage, flogging, tickling and scratching between effleurage and lomi.
Sessions like these have nothing to do with showing the receiver who’s in charge, correcting an action, or as a start to something sexual. These sparks of sensory play is a way to become more centered and in touch with with your body, and to enjoy so-called darker desires without shame. Sometimes, enjoying your darkest desires allows you to authentically live with yourself.
You don’t have to book a session to enjoy the fun and excitement a few spanks can bring. If you would like to practice with a partner, all you need to do is have the right tools. Here is a list of my favorite tools used in my practice and hopefully someday you can use in your bedroom!
Candles (for wax play)
QOTD: Why do I call it 'yoni' massage?
Let's be real. It's a pussy massage. Female-bodied folk, if you schedule a Tantra massage with me, I am going to massage your your entire body, your entire being, your entire soul... and I will massage your pussy. The word 'pussy' continues to be used in such vulgar way that it feels impossible to use it in a context that expresses the divinity of the vulva. So I use the word yoni to create a goddess space for the female sexual being. I use the term Lingham similarly, as 'cock' or 'dick' massage doesn't really sound as pleasant to the ear. Our language is limited, and there are some words out there that are beautiful and sacred, so I am rolling with those.
Here is something else you might not know: when I get to the point that I am massaging your yoni or lingham, there is no pressure to perform or cum. In fact, there is no agenda at all outside of your pleasure.
I want you to let me turn you on. We often think of being turned on as an erection or wetness, but the reality is a wet pussy and a hard cock are simply physiological reactions. My goal is turn you on in a way that moves far beyond the physical, and into a place of self discovery.
This is why my sessions flow the way they do. I believe in the healing and calming properties of a well given massage. I am intentionally working to make your body feel safe, supportive and perfectly relaxed before I move into any of the erotic elements. My body glides along yours, sending sensations of comfort and connectivity. When you get to the point that your body yields to my touch without tensing from it, when you become heavy in my hands, I move onto your pussy or penis.
I work to massage out the kinks and to guide you to a world beyond orgasm. Sure, sometimes an orgasm happens, but that is not the goal and that is not a stopping point. On my table you can moan out loud, writhe in pleasure, or have a tearful release. I invite you to learn to receive pleasure, unclench, and express yourself fully, as an erotic being under my skilled hands.
I invite you to a space where there is no pressure to please the giver, as your joy and freedom brings me all of the pleasure I could ever want!