It's "What the Fuck Wednesday" and today I answer the daunting question, "What the fuck is a chakra?"
In 1996, I was your standard fly ass black girl living in the inner-city and completely clueless to most of the world while simultaneously thinking I knew it all. I had been a staunch (read: evangelical) vegetarian for over half a decade and was dibble dabbing with the idea of veganism, when I was introduced to yoga and meditation. That was the first time I ever heard the term “chakra,” and like most of the other Sanskrit words being thrown around in the yoga studio, it just didn’t stick.
Ten years later, I found myself with a regular yoga practice, a better understanding of some Sanskrit terminology, and still confused about chakras and what they do. As I navigated my new life in Hawaii, I embarked on a tantric path, and that all changed. I say all this to say, it’s totally fine to still in 2018 not know what the fuck a chakra is, but keep reading grasshopper, and you will be on your path to a chakratic awakening (no, chakratic is not a real word).
Sanskrit is an old (1200-400 BC) language that is pretty confusing for anyone who is not well versed in etymology and philosophy, which is MOST of us. It was spoken in India and it is the language most classic Hindu scriptures and poetry is written. The word ‘chakra’ literally means ‘wheel’ in Sanskrit, however it is much ‘deeper’ than that (this is where that philosophy and etymology background comes in handy). According to Eastern philosophy everything, from planets to people, is made up of spirals or wheels of energy. Inside of us there are seven of these wheels, spinning, intersecting, moving energy throughout or body like a pulley system. The flow of this energy (or lack thereof) dictates how we move in life, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
The First Wheel
Chakras move from the base of your body up. The first wheel is the Root Chakra, physically located in the “taint” (tis ain’t the genitals tis ain’t the anus) or perineum, and it is your survival chakra. This is where your flight or fight comes from, where your desire for grounding (shelter, family) and your need for security (financial, emotional) lives. Think in terms of “I have,” and with the feelings of stillness and stability.
The Second Wheel
Your sexual center is your sacral chakra, and this is where your creative energy, your desire and pleasure are rooted. Your sex center is where you experience life change. Think in terms of “I feel” and in concepts of duality, light and dark, male and female, yin and yang.
The Third Wheel
Got Willpower? Check your Solar Plexus chakra for that internal empowerment, confidence and autonomous energy. Think in terms of “I can” and allow yourself to exist in a true human experience, full of tears and laughter, anger and joy.
The Fourth Wheel
Love and the heart have a history that go back way before cupid. The Heart chakra is the home of not only love, but also unity, compassion and healing. Think in the ultimate term, “I love” and move energy from this chakra with the intention of bonding.
The Fifth Wheel
Your communication center is located in the throat. This is where we find connection, self-expression, sound and taste. Think in terms of “I speak” with energy that expands out from the throat, mouth and ears down to the arms and hands. If you are wondering if this energy is affected by technology, the answer is: clearly. Take a moment and adjust your body as you read this on your computer and feel how the throat opens up.
The Sixth Wheel
Even if you know NOTHING about the chakras, you probably have at least heard of the third eye. Your sixth chakra relates to your pineal gland, and is physically located in the forehead area, across the eyes, and even down through the jaw. Think in terms “I see,” and use this energy to channel intuition, imagination, and clairvoyance. This is where your dreams live.
The Seventh Wheel
Here at the top of your head, your Crown Chakra is your guide to understanding, knowing and experiencing bliss. The crown is the thousand petaled lotus flower that grows in the muck. It represents our conscious and our unconscious, our connection to the divine, and our ability to transcend this physical body and earthly presence. Think in terms of “I know,” because you do and on the path to enlightenment it’s important to check in and remember “it ain’t where you from, it’s where you’re at.”
To schedule an appointment for a chakra clearing and full body healing, call Amina at 808-954-0224 or book online today.
Sorry I am late, I was masturbating. I know it's May 20th, but this is the perfect month for that excuse, so I am using it!
Have you been masturbating? NO?!?! Why the hell not! This is a celebration. It feels good and it DOES good. That is right, masturbation has been proven to be BENEFICIAL for women and men. Since I have a vulva to celebrate this month, I will talk about women's masturbation today, but hey there are still 11 days left in the month. I might get to penises too, if I am lucky and practice excellent time management. Masturbation will make you feel better about yourself and make your lover excited to fuck.
Masturbating is Good for You
While touching yourself provides amazing sensory benefits and other pleasures, it's actually better for you. Masturbation can help those suffering from insomnia naturally. Tension release is a great sleep inducer, and that is what an orgasm is. Those good feelings of bliss are brought on by our good friend dopamine, the “feel-good” hormone and when you are done cumming, the relaxing hormone oxytocin is released, which helps you sleep. Also, these hormones are also helpful in improving your mood and relieving depressed feelings. Oh, and all of those pulses you are feeling? Hello pelvic floor! The pelvic floor twerks for you while you orgasm, strengthening naturally without the need of yoni eggs or kegels. Besides, touching yourself helps to improve the way you view yourself and allows you to connect with your body.
One question I get often is, "When is the best time to masturbate?" Anytime is a GOOD time to masturbate, but the BEST time is when you have the freedom to honor yourself without other distractions. I like to set up a date night with myself sometimes that includes a sexy playlist, good wine, candles and my favorite vibrator. I take a couple of hours of solitude, put my phone in 'do not disturb' mode and enjoy myself.
For women, there are 3 well known ways to masturbate: grinding, clitoral stimulation and fingering/vaginal penetration. Grinding was the first way I learned to pleasure myself. I could do it when I was young and still living in my mother's home, without all the guilt that came with touching myself. I would lie in bed, naked from the waist down, and grind on my sheets, arousing myself so that the tip of my clit would fill up and graze lightly against the bed until I climaxed. It's a great intro to masturbation!
Clitoral stimulation can be very intense, depending on the woman, the time of the month, and countless other varying factors. Touching your (well lubed) clitoris gently, rubbing it in a circular motion or using a motorized clit massager are all my top 3 ways to get a quick nut. Sometimes, we don't have time for all the loving woo we want to give ourselves, but sexual release is still desirable. On those days, if I am turned on for it, I make a b-line for the clitoris.
Then, there's penetration. Ahhh, to be penetrated by your own loving hands provides a personal freedom you might not know exists. It allows you to feel the inside of your vagina, palpating your cervix and g-spot, and get a sense of your natural wetness. You can finally feel the pulsing and contractions and repeatedly realize how strong and powerful your pussy actually is! Dildos, wands, g-spot stimulators, and other sex toys can be brought to this private party if you desire, but always know partnered with a good lubricant, your hand is a-plenty!
I could talk for hours about other types of masturbation, including anal play, self-flogging, masturdation (meditational masturbation) and breath orgasms (touchless masturbation), but you will just have to join one of my classes for that. For information on my upcoming classes visit www.fearlessgift.org/events and I look forward to having you at my studio soon!
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